How To Talk To Your Kids About Colorado School Safety Threat

Many parents in Colorado woke up to find out there would not be school today, because of a massive FBI manhunt for a Florida woman obsessed with the Columbine shootings. The 20th anniversary of that horrific school shooting is April 20th.

Kids love to miss school, but this is no snow day. This has to do with safety. How do we tell our kids there is no school, without making them feel unsafe?

Many of my mom friends were on a group text with this very question. The majority of these elementary school moms agreed that telling our kids honestly, without too much detail was the way to go. Our kids practice drills at school, but as I my daughter states in this video, she still doesn't feel like she would know what to do. Parents have to take into account who their kid is and their level of awareness and anxiety around such things. Parenting is tougher than ever. Let's hug our kids a little extra today.

Mental Health America offers the following suggestions:

Encourage children to talk about their concerns and to express their feelings. Some children may be hesitant to initiate such conversation, so you may want to prompt them by asking if they feel safe at school. When talking with younger children remember to talk on their level. For example, they may not understand the term “violence” but can talk to you about being afraid or a classmate who is mean to them.
Talk honestly about your own feelings regarding school violence. It is important for children to recognize they are not dealing with their fears alone.
Validate the child’s feelings. Do not minimize a child’s concerns. Let him/her know that serious school violence is not common, which is why incidents such as Columbine and Conyers, Georgia, attract so much media attention. Stress that schools are safe places. In fact, recent studies have shown that schools are more secure now than ever before.
Empower children to take action regarding school safety. Encourage them to report specific incidents (such as bullying, threats or talk of suicide) and to develop problem solving and conflict resolution skills. Encourage older children to actively participate in student-run anti-violence programs.
Discuss the safety procedures that are in place at your child’s school. Explain why visitors sign in at the principal’s office or certain doors remain locked during the school day. Help your child understand that such precautions are in place to ensure his or her safety and stress the importance of adhering to school rules and policies.
Create safety plans with your child. Help identify which adults (a friendly secretary, trusted teacher or approachable administrator) your child can talk to if they feel threatened at school. Also ensure that your child knows how to reach you (or another family member or friend) in case of crisis during the school day. Remind your child that they can talk to you anytime they feel threatened.
Recognize behavior that may indicate your child is concerned about returning to school. Younger children may react to school violence by not wanting to attend school or participate in school-based activities. Teens and adolescents may minimize their concerns outwardly, but may become argumentative, withdrawn, or allow their school performance to decline.
Keep the dialogue going and make school safety a common topic in family discussions rather than just a response to an immediate crisis. Open dialogue will encourage children to share their concerns.
Seek help when necessary. If you are worried about a child’s reaction or have ongoing concerns about his/her behavior or emotions, contact a mental health professional at school or at your community mental health center. Your local Mental Health Association or the National Mental Health Association’s Information Center can direct you to resources in your community.